Below is an email I got from a reader. Sharing it anonymously, I’m doing so to get feedback that she was interested in receiving. If you have any feedback for her on her situation and concerns, please feel free to share them in the comments below.
I recently discovered my husband had his two adult children down on his life insurance as beneficiaries. He said it was an oversight and that it was an accident. So basically I tried to say it’s not an over site as you have to type in your beneficiaries and my name was nowhere to be found on the document, not even as a contingent.
When I try to discuss this with him he gets mad, says he’s sorry, it was an oversight and I’m making a big deal out of an accident. That’s he’s sorry and not going to continue to discuss or keep having this conversation, even though I feel hurt and betrayed. I’m less upset of the money as it’s not but $100,000 is the fact I’m his wife and should have been at least 50% and his adult children 25/25.
This is more about I feel he lied, and won’t admit it. is hurting me, he gets so defensive and tells me, I’m wrong. And I need to drop it. Please post your feedback. Could he have accidently named his kids and not me as an oversight? Or did he type in their names and not wife and partner for 10 years.
We begin couples counseling soon. But I want to hear from others. Can you make an oversight like this or is this BS and he knew exactly what he was doing? Please tell me what you think, as I’m losing my mind. It’s nothing to do with money, it’s trust, and lies. What do you believe?
Readers: any feedback for her on the whole situation?